How the heck do you make a decision?
How the heck?
We all know that problem of having too many options to choose from.
And we feel unable to pick A or B or C.
But why do we feel unable?
Because we are afraid that when we make a decision for one thing, we exclude the other thing.
By making a decision we THINK that we are saying yes to one thing an no to all the other options. And since we are living in a time where we get told that we can have it all, WE WANT IT ALL.
Everything is possible. EVERYTHING: So we want everything.
And…phew…her goes the dilemma.
So, how do you make a decision then?
DECIDE that you WILL make a decision.
This sounds maybe stupid, but just be honest to yourself and check how often you are remaining in that “comfortable” space of indecisiveness. If you want to pick a choice, you have to decide to do that!
ASK YOURSELF “What is bringing me closer to where I want to be?”
WHAT IS IN ALIGNMENT WITH MY HIGHER PURPOSE?
If you can’t answer that question, then it is time to sit down and get clear on that. Because if you don’t have a direction where you are heading to, then you could do anything. No need to choose.
But if you find your big WHY and can see the bigger vision of it, then the next steps can easily become much clearer.
JUST DO SOME!-THING
Really, doing SOMEthing is far better than doing NOthing. If you really can’t decide, then just pick one option. Things will unfold from there. Maybe you pick it, follow up with it and then you find out that this was the “wrong” choice. At least you’ll find out SOMEthing! Because if you don’t move, nothing will move. Nothing will change. Becoming stuck is just a natural consequence. Which leads me to….point 4
DROP THE FEAR OF WRONG DECISIONS
There is no such thing as a wrong decision!
A wrong decision exists only in a world where you are utterly attached to the outcome. But if you trust and believe in any higher force, however you want to call it, then you are full of trust, that no matter what choice you make, it will get you where you need to be.
Sometimes we need to go into the wrong direction, to find out about the right one.
ONCE YOU DECIDE, STICK TO IT!
Once you made your decision, stick to it!
We all know that one as well…we make a decision, we are on fire for it, and then…the next day…all the enthusiasm is gone. What the heck happened? Oh…good old mindfuck-voice DOUBT came to visit. Don’t allow her to stick around.
You are stronger! Tell her to take a break, you are gonna do what you said you would do and then you can take it from there. On top of that you will gain a lot of trust in yourself, your integrity and your ability to follow through with what you said :)
IF IT DOESN`T WORK OUT YOU CAN ALWAYS CHOOSE ANEW
In times of fast food, fast sex, fast everything this world is suffering a really big disease, called impatience. We feel we have to make the perfect decision NOW and don’t leave any space for mistakes and unexpected miracles.
We can’t plan it all through, because life has it’s unexpected surprises for us all the time. If we allow ourselves to surrender to that, then this is the space where the magic happens.
We have enough time to try many ways. The rush is only in our heads, because we have a goal in mind. Because we want the results now. We want the rewards now. But this is not what life is. Life is about learning lessons, growing and not taking it all too serious, but keeping a happy, playful and joyous heart.